Beatitudes for SAHMs-3
Beatitudes for 'Stay at Home Moms' (part 3)
"Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth."
Matthew 5:5 (NIV)
Meek, it conjures up visions of a quiet, unassuming person -
someone we might not even notice in a crowd. The Amplified
Bible defines meek as the mild, patient and long-suffering.
The Message puts it another way - "You're blessed when
you're content with just who you are - no more, no less." The
Shepherd's Guide Commentary says, "The meek person has
a 'gentle strength' ". I think all of these definitions fit SAHMs
to a tee.
SAHMs struggle long and hard to reach a point of
"meekness." It takes practice to become content with 'just
who you are - no more, no less.' And that doesn't mean we
never look at our neighbors and wonder why they aren't
struggling financially, or wonder if we are good enough
moms, or question why someone else's child got the
scholarship and ours didn't, or a million other questions that
cause doubts about our career choice.
But I believe the definition of meekness as a 'gentle
strength', really describes SAHMs. It takes a strength to give
up - what many times was a satisfying and financially
rewarding career - to stay at home with your babies. It takes
a 'gentle strength' to make yet another meal out of ground
beef because it was on sale. It takes a 'gentle strength' to not
lose your cool when your baby has colic, or your toddler is
having a tantrum, or your school age child has been called to
the principal's office.
It takes a 'gentle strength' to be all things to all people, wife,
mommy, daughter, PTA chairman, neighbor, and any of a
thousand other titles we take upon ourselves. It takes a
'gentle strength' to administer discipline to a child when your
heart wants to hug them. It takes a 'gentle strength' to leave a
wailing toddler with a babysitter to go on a date with your
husband. It takes a 'gentle strength' to say no to a teenager
who wants to do something because their friends are doing it
- when you really want to make them 2 again. It takes a
'gentle strength' to stick with it, when every fiber of your being
wants to break down and cry, or run away. It takes a 'gentle
strength' to say. "I need some time to myself!"
But what is our promised reward for 'meekness'? Jesus tells
us we 'shall inherit the earth.' Hmmm.... we get dirt? We get
this ball we live on? The Living Bible tells us that, 'the whole
wide world belongs to them.' Not much more promising, I'm
having enough trouble with my own little corner of the world; I
couldn't ever manage the whole thing - how about you?
The Message makes it clearer, 'You're blessed when you're
content with just who you are - no more, no less. That's the
moment when you find yourselves proud owners of
everything that can't be bought.' (Italics mine.) That makes
much more sense! We accept our role as SAHMs, we hit our
stride, find a groove, and stick with it, and then we realize we
have more than we ever hoped to have! Our paradigm has
shifted - successfully!
We have acquired the inner peace that comes with trusting
God and doing his will for our family, our children, and
ourselves. We have accepted ourselves, and our role as a
SAHM, and have become comfortable. We come to that
moment of realization that the money is not what it is all
about. Sure, it's nice to have, but it can never replace being
there when your baby takes her first step, or your
kindergartener comes home from his first day of school, or
being there when your teen comes home excited that she
has a date for the prom.
It is an indescribable satisfaction, a knowing that this is truly
where God wants us to be. It is a desire to grow closer to
Him and gain more 'gentle strength' for the daily battles. It is
knowing in your heart and soul, that the decision was the right
one, when you look in your child's eyes. We come to
understand that the intangible rewards we receive on a daily
basis, far outweigh those we earned in the "working" world.
Let us strive for meekness in our daily lives, and inherit the
About the author:
Cheryl is a SAHM to her three year old daughter. She worked as a
nursing home administrator for 8 years before her promotion to 'Stay At
Home Mommy.' She loves being a homebody, sewing, needle arts,
scrap-booking and raising her daughter. Cheryl believes that SAHMs
don't get enough support or encouragement in this day of two income
[ by Cheryl Novak, Copyright 2000 ]
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